Pitfalls in Building Relationships, Commitment and Love - Continuing With T
We continue this series suggesting how to avoid many pitfalls in building interpersonal relationships, whether with family, coworkers, friends, or that special someone. Committed, loving relationships do not just happen. You may know that there is no success secret, no checklist of things to do, and just as important things not to do to make such relationships happen. But we do have many suggestions that focus on potential problems. We actually have a double series of articles for the letter T. The focus here is on triumph, trap, and troublemaker.
T is for triumph. Yes, things worked out your way. Don't strut around triumphantly. If you act like you just got a medal, perhaps you deserve a wooden one. Don't be a trumpeter swan, you may lose your voice. If you grin like the cat that swallowed the canary others may be anxiously awaiting and even preparing the day when you will eat crow. Be cautious about letting people know just how right you were, the next round just may turn out somewhat differently. And the formerly untriumphant may have their day in the sun.
T is for trap. Don't lay a trap for others. One forgetful moment and you may fall in yourself. Some people, but probably not you, would call this poetic justice. Avoid getting caught in other people's traps. If something or someone sounds too good to be true, guess what? It usually is. Unfortunately we have reached the point where e-mails are so infested that many people including myself refuse to open electronic "Greeting Cards." The last time (and I don't mean the most recent time) I opened one I found myself with a nasty computer virus. So now I feel trapped but hit that Delete Button. If we ever progress to the point of an AntiVirus Button we will be untrapped. But that sounds too good to be true.
T is for troublemaker. How does that old phrase go? Don't make trouble. Don't be troublesome. Not even some, it's just too much trouble. Some people just seem to thrive on trouble. You will barely notice them in your social club or at work until trouble hits. Then they take a front row seat all but equipped with a large wooden paddle so that they can stir the mix. They go from ear to ear misquoting others to fan the flames. If it's not too much trouble stay away from these troublemakers.
Are you tired of all this negativity? Take a look at our companion series that accentuates the positive.
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