A Great Relationship - Is it Really About Finding the Right Person?
Relationships. If only you could find the right person, you could live happily ever after.
But - uh - exactly what do you mean by the 'right person'?
There was a play on Broadway recently titled You're Perfect. I Love You. Now Change.
We never got to see it, but the name was plastered all over buses in the Metropolitan area (we live right across the river from New York City, so we get in there quite a lot).
Anyway, we loved the title.
Thing is, what is perseverance when you fall in love becomes stubbornness after you've been together for a while. Fun and carefree becomes lazy and irresponsible. And so it goes.
So what's wrong with wanting just a little change in your beloved? Just the tiniest tweak . . .
But what are you really saying here? You love this person with all your heart. This person you have chosen from among all others. Except that you would love this person just a little bit more if only they were the teeniest bit different from this person you have chosen from among all others and whom you love with all your heart.
Hmmmmm . . .
But the simple truth is the only human being you can actually change is (gulp) yourself. In fact, you're the only human being you have a right to change, wouldn't you say?
And that, when you come to think about it, is the good news. In fact, dare we say, it's the great news.
Because changing yourself puts you in control. That is, it's something you can actually hope to accomplish.
Changing someone else, not so much.
And as an NFL football coach (we think it may have been Hall of Fame coach George Allen, but we're not sure) once said, when things aren't going well, the first place to look is in the mirror.
So things aren't going well. You look in the mirror.
Okay. You think maybe your beloved should be the one looking in the mirror. But he (or she) isn't.
The ball is in your court.
Do you love your beloved enough to offer love without condition? To love the imperfect in your beloved just as completely as you do the perfect?
Oh, come on: there has to be some perfect. This is the lover you picked, after all. Could you possibly have been that wrong?
And . . . uh . . . we hate to bring this up, but . . . are you sure you're perfect?
And just in case you aren't, wouldn't it be nice to be loved just as perfectly for your imperfection as for your perfection?
Wouldn't you love to be on the receiving end of that?
So if you love your beloved so very much, isn't that exactly what you'd choose to give? That is, exactly what you'd love to receive.
All right then: give it.
See what happens.
Bob Brooker and Kaye O'Dougherty want everyone to be happy. So if football season is disrupting your relationship, and the TV clicker wars are pitting Love against the NFL, they'd like to suggest some happier alternatives. Like intimacy, romance, sex and M&M's. All you have to do is look at football in a slightly different way. And Bob and Kaye are there to help you at http://www.footballforlovers.com
Source: http://ezinearticles.com/
Added: September 10, 2008
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