Pitfalls in Building Relationships, Commitment, and Love - Starting With H
We continue this series suggesting how to avoid many pitfalls in building interpersonal relationships, whether with family, coworkers, friends, or that special someone. Committed, loving relationships do not just happen. You may know that there is no success secret, no checklist of things to do, and just as important things not to do to make such relationships happen. But we do have many suggestions that focus on potential problems. We center on habit, harass, and herd.
H is for habit. Don't be a creature of habit. Think outside of the box. In fact, you should make a habit of thinking outside of the box. Wait, there's something wrong here. You can do better than follow that same old routine. Change things once in a while. Drive to work along a different route even if it takes a few extra minutes. Get off the bus two stops early and walk the rest of the way even when the wind is blustery. Don't make that same old pasta dish every Wednesday for supper. Change the noodles, the sauce, or maybe even the entire meal. Try a different beer or a different wine. For years and years my parents exchanged the same Christmas gift with a family friend, home-made fruitcake and tickets to the local Playhouse. And then the truth came out, he didn't like fruitcake and they didn't like the Playhouse. I don't know what the gifts became but I do know one thing, things were never the same. But at least they all kicked the habit.
H is for harass. I don't have to tell you that harassment is a very terrible action that must never be ignored. But let's take this issue further. Skip any harassment that may not qualify as legal harassment but that you definitely know is wrong. Think about it. Would you like to be treated in such a horrendous manner? If the answer is no then just don't do it. You may find that relations with this person may improve. But even if they don't you can have the satisfaction of knowing that you're not a jerk. That in itself is worth something.
H is for herd. Don't join the herd. You're not a cow, a sheep, or a lemming. You don't have to do just like everyone else, to be just like everyone else. Do your own thing. Wouldn't it be great if everyone followed you? Unclear on the concept. Not going to happen.
Are you tired of all this negativity? Take a look at our companion series that accentuates the positive.
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