Getting Real In Relationships - Really Real
Relationships are effort, pure and simple. But, there are rich rewards for the effort. I was reminded of this recently when I received an article from an online journal I subscribe to. Immediately I read this truth from James Adonis I knew I wanted to comment on it. It just rang true. Admittedly it was 'work-related' but what he says applies to, and provokes thought regarding, all communication. Here it is:
"To put communication in context, let's examine a typical relationship. A man can say "I love you" to his wife but the words alone are meaningless unless they're accompanied by care and compassion, thoughtful surprises, hand-written cards, faith, support, romantic dinners, and many other actions which convey far more than "I love you" that he really does love her."
"So what are the lessons for us at work? There are five:
Listening is the most powerful method of communication we can use."[1]
So, there you have it. Did you test yourself? How did you go? Challenging isn't it?
Listening is the golden rule; two ears, one mouth. We learn nothing if we don't listen. If we learn nothing we have nothing to teach. You might not be a 'manager' at a workplace, but I would suggest you do have relationships that require 'management' in your life.
Want to be a better communicator? Work hard on your listening skills. Improvement 'won't happen overnight,' as the shampoo advert would say, 'but it will happen.'
If you want a real and effective relationship with someone whether that is your partner or a work colleague, as Stephen Covey said, "Seek first to understand, then be understood."
The problem with communication is the illusion that it has been accomplished. -George Bernard Shaw
Copyright 2008, Steven John Wickham. All Rights Reserved Worldwide.