Would You Marry Yourself- Or Someone Like You?
A glance at many magazines today will offer practical advice and "how to" strategies for the pursuit of the man or woman of our dreams. Let's face it-sexy tag lines and catchy subtitles make for good print copy but do little for building healthy and sound relationships. Projecting our wants, expectations or intentions onto our partners-to-be only serves to foreshadow the inevitable relational demise. It is as if we build in our own obsolescence from the very start. How is that possible you may ask, "when I'm doing all the right things, paying close attention to selecting my partner, and looking at what he or she has to offer the relationship?
Saving Your Marriage by Reading Your Partner s Cues to Determine Their True Feelings About Divorce
After we've been in a relationship with someone for a decent period of time, we should learn a lot about their moods and the subtle cues they give off about what they're feeling (which a stranger or someone who didn't know them very well, would miss.) This gives us an important "in" if or when the relationship turns sour or is headed for divorce. Yet, so many people, (who were so very good at reading these cues while they were dating), completely miss them when the relationship or marriage is in trouble. Being able to read BOTH your partner's verbal and non verbal cues will help you gauge how you need to present yourself or communicate to your partner if you're the one wanting to save the marriage and need them to eventually be receptive to this.
The Kill-Joy Kid
Rule #4 of The Crazy-Making Husband is PAY NO HEED WHEN YOUR WIFE COMPLAINS THAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP HAS STAGNATED. At the surface, it appears that The Crazy-Making Husband is just plain oblivious to the lack of stimulating, satisfying interaction he offers his wife. Prod him, shake him, screech at him -- nothing rouses him from his brain-dead state when he interacts with you. Sadly, as years pass, more and more, he gives you less and less of himself. In time, it's as if you are the only 'living' person in your marriage. His brain-dead behavior, his lack of genuine emotional expression, and his chronic disinterest in the health of your marital relationship is NOT 'a man-thing', as we women often tend to tell ourselves, for consolation.
Should I Get a Prenup, And When?
Today, I received a phone call from a client wanting a prenuptial agreement. His fiance drafted a prenup, and gave it to him. He wants changes. His wedding is on Saturday. It's too late, I told him. California Family Code section 1615 (c)(2) clearly states that "It shall be deemed that a premarital agreement was not executed voluntarily unless the court finds in writing or on the record all of the following: THE PARTY AGAINST WHOM ENFORCEMENT IS SOUGHT HAD NOT LESS THAN SEVEN (7) CALENDAR DAYS BETWEEN TIME THE PARTY WAS FIRST PRESENTED WITH THE AGREEMENT AND ADVISED TO SEEK INDEPENDENT LEGAL COUNSEL AND THE TIME THE AGREEMENT WAS SIGNED.
Seeking Love Through Matchmaking For Marriage Relationships Part IV
Genetic determinants in marriage Almost all people would think marriage is a social activity and would never think there is any determinant other than the free will of individuals. Social science advocates the compatibility factors which are so predominantly accepted in explaining and predicting love and marriage relationships between individuals. But only a very handful of people with forward thinking would dare to consider and research into the possible existence of more profound genetic variables. Of course, the study of genetic science is an extremely new domain in comparing with the relatively long history of the study of social science.
How to Save a Marriage - Basic Steps to Follow
Is your marriage starting to fall apart? Or maybe you think your marriage is OK when really it's NOT. What am I talking about? A lot of the time we ask how there feeling and they say something like "Yeah things are fine... " and you think it's going good right? Then, a week later your signing divorce papers. That's the first step, find the problem because even though you think things are going good... your partner might think otherwise. If there is a problem... then you have to look at it like a algebra equation. If one sides changes, then the other site MUST also change. That's the key the saving your relationship.
3 Tips For Restoring Emotional Closeness
Emotional closeness in marriage is a lot like sitting down to the table to enjoy your favorite meal and having everything there you need to do so. For example, I am a lover, and I do mean lover of hotcakes in the morning for breakfast. When I have them, I enjoy them most with a scrambled egg (or two, if I'm really hungry), sausage, and lots of syrup. If anyone of those items is missing I don't enjoy the meal as much, and would rather not have it at all. In marriage, emotional closeness is a beautiful bond that you have established with your husband that is nurtured by the two of you through your daily interactions with each other.
How to Save Your Marriage - What You Must and Must Not Do to Stop Divorce
If you're reading this article, chances are you're frantically researching how you can get your marriage back on track or save it from divorce. It really doesn't matter why. Whether you have children, know that divorce can be emotionally and financially difficult, or just believe that marriage should be forever, there are steps that will help you preserve your marriage (and there are steps that will take you further away from your goal.) What You Should Not Do To Save Your Marriage: First, we'll discuss what not to do. It's perfectly natural to panic when the words divorce, separate, or break up are muttered.
Pursuing a Happily Ever-After Marriage
Happily Ever After! Yes, that's what the book said. They lived happily ever after. The thought gets planted in our minds when we are young. The idealism of youth stays with us. Then we get married and reality sets in; but is it really possible to have a blissful relationship? Of course, you see it all the time. Well, maybe not all the time, but you do see couples who have found the secret of a happy marriage. They are flexible enough to continue to pursue each other--they just do it in different ways from what they did when they were dating. When new challenges come up, each one tries to find where he or she needs to make adjustments, and they work on those things.
Healing Your Marriage - Feed Your Internal Flame
I'm sure you've heard it many times before, "Take good care of yourself. If you don't take care of yourself, you'll have nothing left to give anyone else." And that's true! Another example is flight attendants advise passengers in case of an emergency, place your oxygen mask on first before assisting others. Why? Because you'll pass out from lack of oxygen. And who can you help if you're unconscious?! Taking good care of yourself is critical to healing your heart so you can transform your marriage. And one of the ways you can notice how well you're taking care of yourself is to monitor your internal flame.