Healing Your Marriage - Marriage is Not Brain Surgery, It s Supposed to Be Fun!
Don't Give Up!
We all have this idea of what a marriage is supposed to look like. You meet someone, fall in love, plan your wedding, plan your future, and because of preconceived expectations you're watching your marriage die right before your eyes! In the midst of what seems to be a failed marriage is really a new opportunity.
You went to all the trouble of investing time and energy with your spouse, made plans for the future, survived the ups and the downs. The troubles you're experiencing now is bad news, but it's good news, too! Now you can try something new. Every day of your marriage isn't going to be perfect. Those downs give you more chances to enjoy the ups to their fullest. The down times are showing you what you don't like and drive you to have more of what you do like in your life.
Marriage is not an exact science. Rather, it's a constantly changing place in which unpredictable things happen. In a marriage, every challenge can lead to a surprising reward.
So let's work together and redesign your marriage. First, take some time and make note of what you really don't like about your marriage. Be honest and don't make this all about what your spouse needs to change. (Remember, when you're pointing at someone else, you have 3 fingers pointing back at you. More than likely when you think someone else needs to change, it's really YOU that needs to take that advice!) Now that you have your list of dislikes, you can begin to see what it is that you really do want to create in your marriage. Please keep in mind to make requests of your spouse and not demands.
Now take some time and write out what you want to create in your marriage. Take some time to really envision this new future, getting very detailed. What would the perfect day look like? The perfect week? The perfect holiday? Have FUN with this vision! Next write out a specific fun goal you want to accomplish in your marriage in the next 6 months to a year. Make sure it's measurable, meaning you'll know once it's accomplished. Also make sure that you can make it happen yourself or with your spouse without some divine intervention or some other outside source.
Once you have your goal and a time line, break your goal up in to 3 bite sized pieces, or mini goals. These will be the mile markers letting you know you're closer to achieving your big goal by the end of the year. After accomplishing your mini goal, be sure and reward yourself and your spouse, making sure to get really creative and have FUN with the reward! And finally, find yourself a support system, something that will keep you on track to achieving the goal in your marriage, something or someone that will hold you accountable.
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