Advice in a Love Relationship - Can You Make Someone Fall in Love With You?

This question might seem to have a simple yes or no answer. But in fact, it is a pretty deep question. We'll just scratch the surface of it here. The short answer is -- both yes and no.

How is it "no"? Well, everyone will tell you that you can't make someone love you -- it comes from inside. And that's true most of the time. There are a few hypnosis experts who can convince someone to feel as if they're in love, but I don't call that real love.

But what about the "yes" answer? Ah, this is where it gets interesting! You can do things that make it far more likely for someone to fall in love with you. I'm not talking about the stuff you can read in some ebooks for sale -- about saying certain words and acting all puffed up or else playing hard to get, all to manipulate someone to get in bed with you. I hope you'll agree that's not real love either.

What I'm talking about is being your best self. If you could remove your self-consciousness, nervousness, etc., and if you could start living life confidently and go for your dreams, how would you appear to someone else? Think of people you have seen living like that -- how do they come across to you? Like someone you'd like to be around, right? We all like to be around that type of person, don't we?

That is exactly the point. The best way to attract the lover of your dreams is to be the kind of person they would naturally be attracted to! And I don't mean putting on an act, trying to be whoever they want you to be. Not at all! To attract the friends and lovers of your dreams, all you need to do -- and it's absolutely honest -- is to become the "yourself" of your dreams! Become the person you always wished you were. You can do it little by little or all at once -- that doesn't matter. Well, okay, slower might take longer. So go faster if you're in a hurry.

One caveat -- be sure you're being realistic. Don't try to be something you have no ability to be. Be yourself, doing and learning what you can do and learn. If you always wanted to do extreme sports and you have the ability, then go for it. If you want to be in a band or start a band and you have musical talent, then do that. Do it in a smart way, of course. Make sure you don't have money problems. And if you dream of traveling around the world, then save up or work your way from country to country. Or maybe stay home and start your business or write your book or work for the Sierra Club. It's your dream!

Whatever you choose, after a while you'll probably find yourself so poised and sure of yourself, and so fulfilled with your life, that people will naturally be attracted to you. Many of them will be the sort of people you could like, and one or more of them will be potential lovers. And it all happens while you're being true to yourself, perhaps more so than you've ever done before.

Can you make one particular person fall in love with you? Well, if you haven't started living your dreams yet, it just might happen after you start. He or she might begin to see you as even more amazing than before, and that might tip the balance for that person. But then again, someone else might get interested in you and come after you first! Then what will you do? It's up to you how far you go and what you do with your opportunities.

22 Nov 2008 03:26:52

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