The Art of the Break
We often hang on too long. It can be for various reasons. You know that it is not working for certain reasons, but you still love her. You want to bring the relationship to an end, but you can't bring up the topic because you are afraid she might not take it well. And in my case, she would just break down whenever I brought up the topic, and I always end up making it up when consoling. It could also happen that you want to wait till you meet someone new, which is something that could make the end even messier
But on hindsight, it only made the break up messier. When you have decided that the time has come to move on, you should not procrastinate, and just go ahead and finish it off.
Here are some tips to a smooth break up. Well, break ups are rarely smooth, but you can try to make it as smooth as possible.
1) Talk
The best way is to talk make him or her understand why it is not working, and why it will be better for the both of you to move on in life. Being silent and brooding will solve no problems. You need to let it out.
2) Talk soon.
Don't procrastinate. The sooner you talk the sooner you will get over with it. It is not advisable to carry on something that is not working.
3) Don't blame anyone.
Don't play the blame game. Whoever wants to break up usually tries to find fault and blame him or her. Don't do it. It will only leave bitter memories. Don't ever try to blame your lover for anything.
4) Have a good dinner before the talk.
Don't talk on an empty stomach. There is very high chance of turning into a bitter fight, and chances both of you will not have dinner after the talk. Also, people can think rationally on a filled stomach.
5) Talk about the good times.
It is always good to part ways in good terms. Remember the good times, and tell her that she is not responsible for the break up. Make her feel good. At least try.
Tell her that it is for the common good that you need to end it. How can she live with someone who doesn't want to continue the relationship?
Tell her that you want to only have good memories.
6) Don't fall into an emotional trap.
Some people are more melodramatic than others and he/she might try to blackmail you. Don't fall for it. I have and it only made it worse in the end.
Bob Maintains a website on love quotes and an interesting collection of Divorce Quotes, and Break Up Quotes
Source: http://ezinearticles.com/
Added: July 15, 2008
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