How to Get Over a Devastating Break-up
Breaking up with someone whom you have been intertwined with in mind, body, and soul, a person who you've given your heart to and vice-versa is probably one of the most excruciating experiences a person can go through. The experience will ultimately serve you in life, but it doesn't take away the immediate pain. Several steps can be taken in order to help you get through the pain quicker so that you can move forward in life.
The first step is to accept, embrace, and feel the pain. Often, after a hard breakup many people will try to nub themselves to the pain. This is the biggest mistake a person can make. If the pain isn't embraced or accepted, if the tears are not allowed to flow, if the emotions stay locked inside, then your healing time will only take longer, and you'll find yourself developing other problems in life.
To continue, when the pain isn't embraced it can lead to feelings of bitterness, anger, addiction problems, and a variety of destructive emotions and behaviors which will prevent you from developing other healthy relationships in your lifetime. Just simply look around you, more than likely you have friends that will lend you a shoulder to cry on, and allow you to talk and verbalize how you feel.
Secondly, it's very important to always think about, and say the best things about your former love and your experience with them. Almost always that person has imparted a special gift into your life regardless of whether or not you view your experience with them as negative or positive.
Furthermore, try not to view your relationship as a failure, but more as a stepping stone in your life's journey forward. For example, you might say something comparable to, "I really appreciate having had him/her in my life, and they really helped me to grow as a person". These thoughts and words will create and surround you with very peaceful feelings.
Thirdly, it's important to just simply laugh, laugh and laugh. A hard break is nothing more than an emotional roller-coaster ride. You go from moments of being fine to moments of an emotional breakdowns. It's important that these emotions are balanced out with emotions of joy. Laughter is the best way to create moments of joy, and bring yourself into a joyous state of mind. As a result, avoid dramatic or romantic movies, and just simply stick to the comedies for a while.
In conclusion, when you're in a state of joy, it's a lot easier to accomplish the first two steps, which is accepting the pain, then thinking the best thoughts, and saying the best things. Following these steps won't take away the pain right away, but it will help you to ease the pain, and heal quicker.
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Added: June 23, 2008
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