Why Men Withdraw - Understanding Why
You just met this wonderful man and started going out. Every date with him is wonderful, so you think that it's already high time for you to go deeper in the relationship. But the thing is, you don't know how to ask him about commitment. You worry that if you start talking about serious stuff, he'll bolt.
As you think these thoughts, he notices something different in you. He feels that you've changed and not into him anymore. It was fun being with you before, but now all he sees is your worried face. He thinks you're not happy to see him.
You begin to question him a lot and you react to everything he does. He can't understand why you're worried, and he slowly drifts away. His calls become less frequent and he doesn't visit you as often as before. Finally he pulls away because he doesn't understand what's going on.
Happens a lot, doesn't it? Here's three easy steps to avoid seeing this happen:
Step 1: Understand how his mind works. As far as he's concerned, spending a lot of quality time with you doesn't mean he thinks he's in a committed relationship. A man only commits to a woman whom he shares a deep emotional attraction to - basically, someone he can't get enough of. For starters, the better men out there want a woman who's not clingy and needy - someone who doesn't need too much attention to survive.
Step 2: Understand what causes you to make "The Big Mistake". Basic human nature is that everyone wants to have their needs met first. When you think and talk about what you want, then you're putting your needs first before his. Don't focus only how YOU want the relationship to go, instead, honestly consider his perspective and emotional state.
To develop the relationship that you've been dreaming about, be patient, empathize and understand his dreams desires and frustrations as well. Of course you've got to be careful not to give him everything lest you get walked on. Create a balance that is mutually beneficial.
Step 3: Keep communication lines open. By now you should know that men aren't that good in starting and carrying a conversation about deep emotions and relationships. So you'll have to take the initiative to keep your communication lines open.
Men can easily understand you if you know how to communicate with them. So learn to take advantage of his strengths instead of condemning his weaknesses. If you make him feel that understanding his feelings is your priority, he'll love you more and return the favor.
If you think that your boyfriend is ignoring important things you're telling him or is shutting you out of his life, then it's time to take a totally different approach. Find out what to do and say to get him to open up and want to talk, so that you'll not end up in another dead-end relationship. Understanding him is the first step in getting the relationship you've always wanted.