Are You a Shallow Hal?
I was speaking to a friend of mine one night regarding online dating. He went on to tell me that most women he met online were not what they appeared to be once he met them in person. Most were excessively overweight or just down right homely. I laughed and said, "Well, I shop at Victoria Secret." He sounded relieved, until I mentioned the infamous purple thong from Shallow Hal. Which made me think, "Are we all Shallow Hals?" What makes someone pretend to be someone they're not when they are behind the computer? Why don't they think about the possible rejection they may receive on the initial meeting? Do they not realize how different they look in person from how they portrayed themselves online? I guess the answer could be very different for each person, and for most, the possible gain outweighs the risk.
I have a male friend, who is 35 years old and very good looking. I remember he called me one night to tell me he had found the love of his life. It's funny. When you know a person and he tells you he has met someone, your mind has already formed an image of that person. He went on to tell me that she could be a runway model; she had the face and body of an angel. Soon after this conversation, I met the runway model and was completely thrown off track. The reality was nothing like my mental image. In my opinion, she was tall and gawky, her hair was stringy and parted on the side, covering half of her face. She was very plain looking, and I couldn't understand why he was so taken with this woman. He constantly asked me what I thought of her. He was afraid she might be too good looking for him. I wanted to say, "Who are you kidding?" But I simply replied, "You have nothing to worry about." I immediately thought how lucky my friend was. He was Shallow Hal without the Shallow. He had found beauty in this woman, where most didn't see it or understand it. He didn't need confirmation from anyone, because to him, she was his beauty queen.
I try to learn a lesson in each experience, knowing that everyone has something valuable to teach us. In this experience, I walked away with the knowledge that everyone is different and sees things through a different pair of eyes. Don't ever change yourself to be the person someone else wants you to be. Rather, be glad for who you are and take pride that God has given you a beauty that no one else possesses. Each woman has a beauty all her own and deserves to be cherished by a partner who will see her through rose-colored glasses!
Lauren Murphy a successful businesswoman for over 15 years has decided to create "Love at Last.com" and other social networking sites so that she could help facilitate the search between men and women looking for that special someone. Lauren Murphy has worked for several Fortune100 companies during her career as a sales marketing strategist. Ms. Murphy is an author who has written several articles in regards to relationships, self help and how men and women can co-exist in an ever-changing world. Her newest book "Find Love at last" will be released in 2008. Lauren has teamed with the finest Internet web developers to bring a unique perspective for on-line social networking that truly makes a difference.
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Added: June 21, 2008
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