Stop Trying To Figure Out Women And Start Acting
I receive so many emails from guys who complain that they can never figure out women and it's driving them crazy. Many of them want to know what women want, why women do this, why they react in this manner and why they say one thing and want something else etc.
So many guys are fixated in the notion that they "need to learn everything about women before they can ever have a relationship with them". I am sure if there was a door marked "Hot Women" and a door marked "Lecture About Hot Women" most guys would line up for the lecture.
While I am all for us trying to figure and seize each other up, it"s one thing to be curious or want to learn more about women and a whole other thing when this "need to know" becomes an excuse for none action on your part.
I know many guys who can recite Men are From Mars Women are From Venus but with very little insight into what needs to be done in the present to create a more fulfilling relationship with a woman. In many ways it"s like decorating the walls of your prison cells and sitting there wondering why you are not happy inside your cell.
Over the years (personal and work experience), I"ve found out that beneath the need to figure out women is a intense fear of women and what they represent in the minds of the men trying to figure them out. This fear of women seems like a silly thing to even consider and very few men would want to admit their fear of women, even to themselves. But think about this, why does the mere thought of approaching a woman paralyze many men? Even worse, women"s natural response to men who fear them (to avoid or reject them) tends to reinforce and intensify men's fear of women"s power to validate or reject them.
My advice for men is stop trying to understand women and start getting to understand and figure yourselves out first. What freaks you out is not "women", instead what freaks you out is your own fear of your femininity (yes, you got a feminine side). You need to get in touch with your feminine energy to really be able to get into a woman"s mindset.
Let me make it very clear about "in touch with your feminine energy." There is being in touch with the underdeveloped aspects of your feminine energy (compliant, clingy, needy, moody, defensive, anxious, moody, gossipy, timid, superficial, blame others for your problems, do not take responsibility for your actions etc). And there is being in touch with the developed aspects of your feminine energy (nurturing, creative, intuitive, receptive, relating intimately and showing concern for each other's feelings and well-being etc).
But of course, you must also be in touch with the developed aspects of your masculine energy as well. Your developed masculine energy is what prompts you to action, to take risks, to challenge, explore and take charge. The underdeveloped aspects of your masculine energy on the other hand makes you sarcastic, manipulative, aggressive confrontational, argumentative, antagonistic, ruthlessness and destructive.
You need the balance of developed masculine and feminine energies to overcome your fears and move on to create the relationship with women that is yet beyond your grasp.
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