Sexy Boomers - Be Sizzling at Any Age!

PART I

Remember when you were young and in love - and ready for anything at any time? Ahhhhh!!! I remember it as if it were only yesterday - not 40 years ago. I remember, I always wore my favorite underwear for those "special" times- the special ones for that "special" date.

My PPP's (Passionate Purple Panties!).

You remember those, don't you? Maybe yours were red or pink - maybe they had ruffles or lace. But you remember them, right?
So, what are you wearing now?

No, stop, please don't tell me, not the soft white cotton undies that say "Hanes" on the label. I told you not to tell me.

OK, there is nothing wrong with your Hanes - or your white undies - they are comfortable - I know - I have them, too. But what about those "special" nights with the guy you love? What do you think he will aspire to if you make him perspire? Wear the PPP's, slip on a little see-through robe, and watch the fire start.

I am not leaving you guys out of this either. You want romance. You want some kissing and fun - right? So tell me, are you wearing your ancient, white - now more yellowed than white - briefs? Guys, come on - don't you know that women are turned on by cool underwear? Go for color - go for sexy boxers - yummm!!!! But please, do not sit around in them all day. Let her undress you mentally.

The problem is that once you are over 45 or been married for a number of years, you start to get lazy. Lazy generally means we stop trying to look sexy. And we stop trying to look sexy because we don't "feel" sexy. Remember, sexy is more in the brain than the body. If you think sexy - you become sexy. You really are what you think - so think "sexy."

PART II

When I get older losing my hair

Birthday greetings bottle of wine - Paul McCartney

I have an article on my refrigerator, which I cut out of a magazine years ago - "Assume that your partner is not as critical of your body as your are." What a concept! Yes, you may have

• saggy boobs
• lowered butt
• wider hips
• protruding stomach
• age spots
• wrinkles
• chin hair
• moustache
• and all those other wonderful juicy things about aging -

but when you love someone, is it really about those things or the lips you have kissed for years that still turn you on?

We are marketed to ad nauseam about how we need to improve this or that - we are never just OK the way we are. For a change - assume that your lover is not as critical of you as you are about yourself - and love him or her, as you want - without fear.

Now, that being said, I do suggest - especially to you guys - to clean up your act a little. This means bathe, shave, avoid walking around in your under shorts, take care of your teeth, trim the nose and ear hair, shave the neck hair, use mouth wash - care for yourself as you would if you were 19 again and wanting to get some luvin'. Come on - no one wants to be tickled by nose hair while kissing.

Ladies, it doesn't matter if you look in the mirror and question how the guy you love could love you when you see everything that is wrong with you. It doesn't matter because he doesn't see those things. What he worries about is will you love him with his love handles, pouchy belly, and arms that lack the muscle of youth - and what about his "man boobs?"

Come on ladies and gents - aging is part of life. You know, I often wonder how dogs make it through life without all our human concerns. A bitch has puppies and her titties sag and her belly droops, but she sure doesn't seem to care. She is happy to just go for a walk. What if we were like that?

PART III

Remember that song, "Do you love me?" from Fiddler on the Roof? Tevye sings to Golde, "Do you love me?" and she responds,

"Do I love you?

After twenty-five years, why talk about love right now?"

Why talk about love right now? Do we need to be told we are loved? Do we need to tell our partner that we love them? The response to both questions is "hell yes!" We never tire of hearing those precious words that we are loved and cared for. Why do we stop saying we love someone - the reasons are numerous. It could be because we get lazy, it could be because we no longer think our partner loves us, it may be because we don't see our own selves as lovable. The thing is we can rekindle the romantic spark of love - even if it has been twenty-five years - or a lot more.

Remember the song, "Escape" (better known as the Pina Colada song)?

I was tired of my lady, we'd been together too long.
Like a worn-out recording, of a favorite song. - Rupert Holmes

This kind of "worn out recording" happens because we stop asking what the other person wants, needs or enjoys. We start assuming. That is pure laziness!!! The best way to rekindle the words, "I love you," is to rekindle your interest in your partner - and the romance.

So, how do you add romance back into a marriage or relationship? It is easy, but it will take work. The thing is we tend to lose imagination. Guys, once again, pretend you are 19 and want some. Ladies, pretend you are sweet 16 and really want to be kissed. Use variety and imagination.

PART IV

"If you like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain.

I'm the lady you've looked for, write to me, and escape."

Escape (The Pina Colada Song) - (Rupert Holmes)

One of the best ways is to re-create romance is to go back to where is started - "Date Night,"

Remember when you knew that Friday or Saturday night was "date night" and you would dress up, clean up, and get all blushed with excitement? Come on - you remember. Well, create that feeling again by planning a weekly "date night." My thought is that it should vary - take turns - one week one partner and the next week the other partner comes up with a scathingly brilliant idea for a date. This means you cannot be a slug about this - you have to plan - and start planning a week or more ahead.

Some date night ideas are to say it with flowers or candy (best if it is organic, super dark chocolate, but only a bite). Both men and women love to receive flowers, or a small plant, and/or candy. Be sure to call (I don't care if it is from the next room from one cell phone to the other) or send an invitation. Invitations make it extra special. Then plan - make sure everything is well planned out. And remember, date night does not have to cost a lot. Sometimes the simpler the better - and the more romantic!

So, here are some creative ideas that my clients have come up with:

• Picnic in the living room with romantic music and a fire (if you have a fireplace of course.)
• Going to the park and watching the sunset. Be sure to bring an extra blanket to cover yourselves with to keep warm and to get closer.
• Have a beauty spa: paint each others toenails, massage each others backs using a nice oil, or wash his or her hair. Or just care for one person this week and the next the other - this creates a feeling of being special for the night.
• Make it a game night. Play cards or a board game or maybe strip poker.
• Watch a romantic movie such as Casablanca, The Graduate or It Happened One Night
• Or watch a sexy movie - How about the original Thomas Crown Affair - and be sure to share food together!
• Find a hobby you both can enjoy together. Stay active - hiking, biking, gym membership, dancing lessons, yoga, or Nia.

When you are in public, hold hands and kiss - people won't think what's with these "horny old people?" Rather they will think it is sweet - this is one of the joys of getting older.

PART V

Ooh, now let's get down tonight

It's getting stronger and stronger

- Sexual Healing by Marvin Gaye

Why is it that much of media thinks that humans over a certain age no longer think about nor want sex? Excuse me - but we know better. I personally love the show "Boston Legal" because of the 40, 50, 60 and 70 year olds who all work together and seem to all have an active sex life. I love that the 40-year-old lawyer thinks that his boss is sexy - and she is at least 25 years older than him. Hurray!!!! Why not???

It is a myth that men and women suddenly no longer care for a good romp in the bed when they get older. OK, maybe it isn't every night - but once a week is still OK. One date I had actually thought that women over 50 no longer wanted sex. Really????

Yes, there may be physical issues that get in the way - but with love and caring they do not have to be an issue. For men there seem to be a huge variety of pharmaceuticals and natural remedies for his ED. (Funny until that little blue pill we never even thought about ED - at least I didn't.) For women it may be dryness or irritation. There are creams and gels that help with female issues as well. In other words, there is no excuse. It seems the medical association and drug companies are very concerned about your sex life.

Now maybe it is time for you to be.

Sex is healthy at any age (check with your doctor first if you have heart concerns) and can actually be considered a form of exercise.

"So honey - the gym or the bedroom?"

You burn a lot of calories having intercourse. It also is a great way to lift your mood, feel more energized, and of course, bring a great glow to your skin. In other words, it is healthy.

So, what stops us from having sex more often? It may be because you don't have anyone in your life - I get that one!!!! But often even those who are married - miss out on the joys of sex. My suggestion, if sex has drifted out of your marriage - follow some of the suggestions above - ladies where are those PPP's? - men, I suggest grooming.

PART VI

Now, this is for everyone. It doesn't matter if you are in your 20's or 90's, you want to have romance, then you want a romantic bedroom.

A couple that I am friends with decided to make their room more "sexy." They were in their 30's and had been married for about 10 years and wanted to add some spice. So, they went shopping for paint and ended up with a passionate Peptol Bismol bedroom. Funny it didn't make them feel sexy at all. They painted over it. But they had the right idea - you want to create atmosphere.

So, how does your room look? Do you have the treadmill in one corner covered in clothes, the TV on a stand with lots of videos around it, and then of course there is the pile of old newspapers and books to read? No, no, no - this is not a bedroom; it is a dumping ground for useless material. A sexy bedroom does not have any of these things.

Let's clean it up!

If you Google "sexy bedrooms" you will find they have chandeliers, candles, beautiful fabrics, canopies, flowers or plants, pillows, a touch of elegance, mirrors, settees and chairs. If they must have a TV - it is placed as a piece of art in the room - not on an old stand or on top of the dresser. I suggest that you check out sites on sexy bedrooms and see what you can do to enhance yours.

PART VII

Are you ready to create romance?

• Paint or wallpaper your walls an exciting color - walls do not have to be eggshell white.
• Find some provocative fun paintings for your room. According to The Secret movie, if you want a mate, surround yourself with art of two people together - best if they are kissing or facing each other.
• Get rid of the old, dusty blinds and replace them with lacy panels
• Add candles, softer lights, bedside lamps, for that dimmed light look.
• If your mattress is old and sunk in - invest in a new one - your back will hurt a lot less. And king size it!
• Add flowers and plants such as ferns.
• Add pillows that can be used for fun as well as decoration.

Trust me when I tell you that if you want to create romance, make sure the atmosphere is romantic. The bedroom aught to be a sacred spot where you go to rekindle romance and to rest your head.

Now, for that special night, here are some tips!

• Take a bath in oils so that you smell great and your skin is soft and slippery
• Avoid perfumes as they often cause sneezing or plugged sinuses - unless you happen to know your lover is into your perfume.
• Wear something that makes you feel sexy - feeling sexy is an important part of romance - and make sure it is easy for your lover to take off. This may be a good time for the Passionate Purple Panties!
• Make it fun - have flower petals spread up to the bedroom and into the bed.
• Have some fun finger food and drink (personally I would avoid alcohol as it often causes sleepiness).
• Play some soft music
• Have fun!

Now, you may be thinking - "Why do I need to do all of this? Isn't this more like what they do in the movies - real people don't do this." Well, my suggestion is to try it. There is nothing to say that your life can't be like the movies. See if adding atmosphere does not add to your romance. It sure can't hurt!

So, this is for all the sexy, vibrant boomers out there - have a blast!!!!

Please let me know if you enjoyed this e-zine, what you learned from it, do you want more. I would love to hear from you judith@wiseheartcoaching.com

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